"I have been having an affair with a married man. I know it's wrong but the chemistry between us is amazing and the sex is incredible. Now, he's offering to pay my rent on an apartment that's near his work so he can see me more often. I'm not sure I want to get that serious because he's quite a bit older than me and I like my freedom. He also keeps saying he's going to leave his wife. Am I a fool to believe this is going to last? My best friend says I'm being used while my sister says I should enjoy the 'perks' while I can? What do you think?"
I need help, what do I do? I have been with my boyfriend for 7 years now! We've had our ups and downs, but lately have been doing pretty good. I am 25 and he is 27. Lately I have been trying to breech the subject of marriage and children. I think we are at a good point in our lives where this should be the next step. We both have solid careers. I am ready! But when I bring up the subject of our futures and plans to move in together and get engaged he doesn't want to talk about it. He sometimes gets mad and says things like we'll talk about it later. Later comes and goes. Should I be worried that he doesn't want to commit? But he sometimes makes comments about the future such as the idea of making me his beneficiary for his insurance. Could he be planning something? I'm just so confused. I don't want to pressure him, but I also don't want to wait around forever.