My family is feuding really bad. My boyfriend asked my father if he could marry me & if he could propose and my father said NO. He says no man is good enough for me. My mom said she is fine with it. (My parents are divorced). My dad has never liked any of the guys I dated...so I don think he would ever say yes. He's a weird guy. Should I just go ahead and marry my boyfriend without my dads permission? I'm sure he'd still come to the wedding. I think. Anyway - I would be curious to know if any of your other listeners have been in my position. HELP!
"Two of my married co-workers are having an affair. I know you'll say it has nothing to do with me, but the man's wife is a friend. They've only been married for 18 months and she's on maternity leave. On Tuesday, I caught the cheaters going at it in their car as I was leaving work. They didn't see me so I took a picture on my phone. My question is, should I send it to his wife?"
Please keep me anonymous!!! I'm a happily married mother of 2. My husband & I have a solid marriage. Problem is - we have 2 adorable daughters but I want to go for #3. I really want 3 kids. And I want to see if Number 3 could be a boy. However - my husband is 110% against going for a 3rd. He does not want another child. 2 is enough for him. If theres one thing we fight about in our marriage - its this. The same fight happens just about every month when I ask if we can try. He says NO. And then we fight. It's ridiculous. I've always wanted 3 kids. I just don't feel complete in my family yet. Is there anything I can do to change his mind? Do you think he will come around? Or should I just accept it and move on.
I recently had to move back in with my parents - it is a long story - but basically, I am 32. Was engaged to a man for 10 years. We lived in a condo together. When we split - he got the condo. It's been about 4 months of me living at home and I've started to date. Of course I won't be living at home for long, but while I am - I want to be able to bring my date over. I live in my parents room above the garage. I have my own entrance. They never see me. Unless they want to. I love my parents - but they are VERY religious and extremely strict about dating. Me living with my fiance was a big issue. So now I have this guy that I want to bring home to stay with me from time to time. But I feel like I am in high school sneaking around. It's ridiculous and I am actually scared I will get caught. Do I need to just be open & honest with Mom and Dad...or just keep it all a secret & sneak him in late at night. I don't want to hurt their feelings - which is why I want to be honest and tell them. But then I kinda know they will be pissed and kick me out. I am torn! Thanks for reading. PS: I am apartment hunting as we speak!
Please Please solve this argument!!!! My husband wants to hold our 12 (almost 13!) year-old sons birthday party at Hooters next month!!! I am totally against this. He says I'm being too conservative and strict - and its not about the girls, its about the food. Yes its true - my son LOOOOVES to eat at Hooters. Usually - we get it to go after baseball practice, etc. But that is not the issue. If we eat dinner there it is one thing, but to have his friends come meet us for a birthday party?! And send invites?! I think it is wrong. Should a 13 year-old have a birthday party at Hooters?
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"My husband & I have been married 2 years. 6 weeks ago we started couples counseling b/c we've had a really hard time getting pregnant & it was hurting our marriage, stressing us out, etc. After a couple sessions I noticed our therapist (female) was a little clingy on my husband. Doting on him. Agreeing with him. Constantly smiling at him. Very weird. Just rubbed me the wrong way. Well last night after a session his phone beeped while he was in the shower. It was a f&*$#ing text from OUR THERAPIST!!!!!! She said to call him and schedule one on one sessions & he would 'benefit greatly' from them. OH MAN!!! I was blown away. I scrolled through & found MORE messages. Mostly her flirting and my husband responding with simple 'YES NO or OK'. Obviously - the counseling is gonna end. My husband said he was just being nice. Ummm...what do I do?! I trust and LOVE LOVE LOVE my hubby. There is no evidence he did anything wrong. But this woman CLEARLY crossed a line. What do I do now? I really thought counseling was helping us but now I am paranoid. And is there someone I can report her to? Did she break any rules by texting him?! I am livid!!! Please don't use my name. Thanks!"
Chuck and WooWoo - My dad passed away 7 weeks ago after a short battle with cancer. He and my mom were married almost 40 years. We are all obviously heartbroken and sad beyond anything I've ever known. The other night my mom announced at dinner that she was going on a date with a man she met at church. My brother and I are appalled. We think it is tasteless and too soon. We can barely process our feelings & accept he is gone - and now its like my mom has forgot she was even married. It is out of character for her. Is this part of the grieving stage? Does she need to see a counselor? We are so confused. I don't want to tell her what to do - she is almost 70! - but I feel she is moving on way to fast. Right? Thanks for reading! You guys bring me a little slice of sunshine & happiness every morning on my way to work. Thanks again. Smiles.
Chuck and Woo, Please DO NOT use my name or post my email address. I have a big issue at my office. My boss is a female pitbull. She's horribly controlling, talks down to ALL of us, she's verbally abusive and just a terrible person to work for. She has no emotion but anger. Working for her is miserable but it pays the bills. I work with about 20 other employees who ALL feel the same but nobody will say anything to her. Nobody will put their foot down to say 'HEY - You can't treat us like this'. I am willing to speak up. My husband said that it is a bad idea & will only end in me losing my job. I feel like if I talk to her and tell her that we all HATE her, she might soften up. Right? I can only hope. Maybe she doesn't know how rude & demeaning she is? I'm over it. What should I do? Will this backfire?
"My co-workers and I recently attended a charity bachelor auction that one of our MAJOR clients produced. I bid on some of the guys just for fun and won a date with a potential client. Awkward - yes, but it was kinda part of the job. And my boss is ecstatic and he's pushing for me to close the deal on this "date". However - my boyfriend is outraged and says the bid and date are cheating and if the tables were turned I would be furious!! I'm trying to convince him that it's just for work. This guy means nothing and I am obligated to go out with this man. What do you guys think? ~Sarah"
"My best friend and her husband have been married 3 years and are talking about having a baby soon. I have 2 very active boys - 5 and 8. My boys are awesome! Love them. My BF told me the other day that she and her husband want to get a puppy to "train them" on how to be a parent. Because the puppy will make them "less selfish" with their time. I lost it. I was fuming! A puppy is NOT the same thing as a baby. AT ALL! I mean - What an obnoxious remark, right?! We got in a big fight. She said I was rude & I owe her an apology and blah blah blah. I just think it's ignorant to think you can raise a puppy and have allll the knowledge on how to be parent. Nothing can prepare you. And if she gets a dog and then has a baby - the dog will be 2nd. That's just not fair. I refuse to apologize. Am I right ??! Thanks for reading."