5 Things You Need To Know Before You Get Married
That You Love Him Just As He Is (Because He's Not Going to Change) What irritates you about your guy now will really grate on you after you're married. He's a total slob? A night owl when you're an early bird? Don't kid yourself into thinking he'll change once you're hitched -- that's a blueprint for disappointment. Assume that any negative qualities you're seeing will remain negative, and be realistic about what you're willing to live with. So decide what's a dealbreaker and what's not before your boyfriend becomes your husband.
What His Financial Situation Is Beyond what he pulls down in salary, you should know how much he has in savings, how much debt he's carrying and -- this is important -- how he accrued it. You don't want any surprises after marriage. Ask these questions before you're married so you have an understanding of what caused any problems and how to prevent them from happening again. Sure, the conversation takes some finesse, but you can ease into it by discussing your hopes and dreams together. That opens the door to sharing what your money history has been.
Whether You Both Want Children Some couples want six kids -- others can't even imagine having one. What ultimately matters though, is that you both know in your gut how you feel about the "having kids" question. Sit down with your fiancé and have a true heart-to-heart: Discuss where you see yourself in 5 or 10 years and if kids are part of that vision. If you're not on the same page, one of you will have to compromise in a big way, which may be very stressful (or even a dealbreaker).
How to Eat at a Restaurant Alone When your guy's not around, there's no need to be stuck at home with a Lean Cuisine -- do something fun by yourself. Many people aren't comfortable doing this because they imagine others are judging them for being alone. But the reality is, most folks are probably too wrapped up in their own thoughts to ponder why you're solo. So enjoy your meal and your alone time. It sends the healthy message to your guy that you don't need him to entertain you every night. That kind of independence is sexy!
How to Do Home Improvements No, you don't need to know how to install your own solar water heater, but you should own a toolbox stocked with the basics (hammer, screwdriver, wrench, pliers, power drill, assorted screws and nails) and know how to hang a picture, change out a door knob and assemble your own Ikea desk. Fixing things around the house yourself can be incredibly empowering, especially if your husband isn't handy or never seems to get around to doing it himself. Even if you marry Mr. Fix It, knowing your own way around a tool box means you won't need to keep nagging him when you just want it done.